Acknowledging the setbacks in my EDS healing journey is hard work

Recovery is such an up-and-down experience.

I want to move forward, make progress, and get on with life, but that’s not how recovery works, especially for those of us with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS). While my overall trajectory is upward, I’m having a tough time with the setbacks and not-so-great days. Patience is not my strong suit. Ask anyone who knows me. While I’ve certainly learned to have patience as I’ve gotten older, I definitely wouldn’t put it on my list of strengths. I like to have a plan, act on it, and move forward, but right now that’s not really an option.

I fractured my rib (and injured my diaphragm) in mid-September, but it didn’t fully break for another week and a half, so that reset my recovery clock. I’m at about eight weeks right now, and for a complete bone break like mine, healing would take at least three months.

Since you can’t immobilize a rib in place with a cast, it takes a lot longer to heal than most broken bones. Every breath and movement causes tiny movements of the bone that interrupt healing, so it’s constantly two steps forward, one step back.

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Over the hump, embracing ‘realistic positivity’

Luckily, as far as the pain goes, I feel like I’ve made it over the hump. The sharp pain in my ribs has been replaced by more of a dull ache. And while my diaphragm is definitely still injured and irritated, I’m happy to not feel nauseous all the time now. I know that with my EDS, the damage to my muscle and connective tissue will take a lot longer to heal than my bone, but I’m trying not to think about that.

Still, now that I’m feeling better, it’s immensely frustrating to not be able to do what I normally do. I’m ready to skip over what’s left of my healing process and just be back to normal. It irritates me to see things that need to be done around the farm and not be able to just take care of them myself, as I usually do. I have amazing help that I’m grateful for, so the farm is in great shape, but I learned a long time ago that ignoring feelings of frustration isn’t useful. With EDS those feelings come up regularly.

Instead of pretending that the negatives — a form of toxic positivity — I’ve found it’s important for me to utilize realistic positivity, which involves recognizing the pitfalls, acknowledging and working through them, and then choosing to focus on the positive. And that’s what I’m trying to do right now.

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