When my EDS pain didn’t feel like pain — and now it does, and worse
My improvements have made me more aware of how much I hurt during a flare
“When you’re not used to hurting all the time anymore, it really sucks when you do, doesn’t it?” Those are the paraphrased words of my massage therapist last week, and while they perhaps weren’t the most elegantly phrased, they sure rang true to me.
After having a bizarre Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS) pain flare recently, I scheduled a massage on a week when I wouldn’t normally have one, hoping to make some more progress. I typically have massages every other week like clockwork — massage is critical to my pain management — but sometimes when I’m feeling particularly bad, we’ll schedule an extra session. This off-week massage was one of those times.
As I lay on the table thinking about it, I realized how much sense my therapist had made. Since I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 22, I spent my whole life up until then in significant pain — except I didn’t realize it. As strange as it sounds to someone who hasn’t experienced it, how would you know you’re in that much pain if you didn’t also know what it feels like to not be in that much pain? It wasn’t until I started feeling better that I realized just how much pain I’d been in most of my life.
Feeling less pain is a great thing, no doubt about it! On the flip side, a severe pain flare can bother me more than it used to. When it was a given and simply a way of life, I easily relegated it to the back of my mind. Pain then was like an annoying and aching background noise. While I still have the capacity to push my pain into the background, my periods of feeling good have made it harder to ignore when it does flare up.
After years of examining patterns, noticing what helps me and what doesn’t, I try to avoid activities or movements I know are likely to trigger a flare. I don’t do anything that requires strength over my head as it may cause a subluxation of my shoulder. And weirdly, I don’t stir stiff cookie dough by hand as that’s guaranteed to flare up my shoulder — don’t ask me why, because I don’t know! Because I exercise caution in these and other tasks, I don’t often have severe pain anymore.
Sure, I still get sore. In fact, I’m sore most of the time, and sometimes I’d still characterize it as strong enough to be considered pain. Thankfully, however, that bone-weary, aching, exhausting pain is far less common than it used to be.
Now that I have a variety of tools in my toolbox to combat pain, I can also see the light at the end of the tunnel when it does come along. It absolutely does suck when pain flares up that way, but I also know that even though it may take days or even weeks to settle back down, depending on the episode, I can tackle it and get my pain levels back to manageable daily levels that I can control.
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