Taking time out of my busy life is crucial to manage EDS pain
Whose health comes first — a horse's or my own?
As I wrote last week, October tends to be a stressful month at my job, where I work with students on their post-high school plans. With November approaching, I’m thankful I feel a little better after some tough Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS) pain. Prioritizing bodywork and rest time was crucial to my ability to bounce back and feel better.
I have a massage every other week, which is the only thing that helps me avoid feeling like a painful, twisted pretzel from EDS. Although my insurance doesn’t cover it, I’ve built it into my budget because its benefits are profound. But life occasionally gets crazy and I’ll miss a session. I always regret it, but sometimes it’s just unavoidable.
Ahead of my last session, I ended up in a bit of a conundrum. Cherry, one of my two horses, was injured after being kicked in the shoulder by another horse. Unfortunately, an appointment with the veterinarian fell on a Monday afternoon, and my massage was scheduled for later that evening. But I couldn’t be in two places at once, and Cherry had to be examined.
The problem, though, was that if I skipped my massage, my pain would worsen for weeks. I decided to rearrange my schedule and leave work early, so that I could take care of Cherry and get my massage. It was a little stressful, but a temporary hiccup was better than missing my massage. I’m glad I made that decision, as I could manage the stress that came with it because I felt better after the massage.
When the next weekend came, I needed a break, but I had several chores and other things to do. I’ve learned the hard way, though, to avoid starting a week tired, if possible, so I decided to prioritize my to-do list. I separated items into things that needed to be done and things I wanted to get done. Whatever wasn’t finished by 4 p.m. on Sunday had to wait.
I managed to get everything I needed to do done, along with most of what I’d wanted to do. I also cooked, making sure I had breakfast for the morning and leftovers for the week.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that it’s OK to compromise and take a break. I can’t be everywhere and do everything at once, and it’s OK to push back noncritical things for a few days. I used to get frustrated when my EDS prevented me from doing what I wanted, when I wanted to do it. I’ve since learned that if I take a short break and give in to my EDS, it’s better for me in the long term.
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